Thursday 12 March 2020

Why we do not compliment more amply?



How can we become a better leader or a better individual? One of the outstanding virtues of a stronger leader and better individual is who acknowledge other’s contribution. Encourage others to do more such excellent work.

Why leaders are stingy in complimenting others? they feel insecure? when they have to compliment. 

Have you come across such a leader? Why we have many such leaders? When they will change? 

Why individuals do not Compliment easily? Why they record merely the dreadful instances?
Mark Twain once said, “I can live for two months on a good compliment.”

Criticisms often have a stronger impact than compliments, and bad news frequently gets further recognition than good. The reason for this is that negative events have a greater impact on our brains than positive ones. Psychologists refer to this as negative bias.
The negative bias is our tendency not only to register negative stimuli more easily, but also to dwell on these events.

“The bad stuff is easier to believe. You ever notice that?” says Julia Roberts’ character, Vivian, in Pretty Woman (1990). As it turns out, Roberts’ character, Vivian, was touching on an unfortunate psychological truth; the “bad stuff” is indeed easier to believe and the reasons why may surprise you.

Dr. Bono explains, “Danny Kahneman (an economist who won the 2002 Nobel prize for his work) has designed studies in which participants are asked to imagine either losing $50 or gaining $50. Even though the amount is the same, the magnitude of the emotional response is significantly larger for those imagining what it would be like to lose the money. In other words, the negativity of losing something is far greater than the goodness of gaining something…even when the “something” that has been lost or gained is objectively equivalent.”

We are good at registering negative than positive!!!

Why We Should Compliment More?
  • Every. Single. One. Obviously, individuals are hungry for compliments.
  • Greater appreciation contributes to enhanced communication, better relationships, and better contentment.
  • Create so much positive energy that they make things happen almost like miracle!
  • Paying someone a compliment can also be an efficient conversation starter
  • Compliments make the world a better place
  • They identify an individual that they are worthwhile of notice
  • A genuine compliment is a form of spreading graciousness along with gratitude.
  • Kindness has a ripple effect. Your compliment will, in theory, inspire that recipient to readily allow another a compliment; then that person will be inspired to do the same; and so on.

What are the parts of a stable compliment? we require to take care below aspects
  • It should be specific
  • It should be from your heart
  • Observe all the good thing and distribute more 
  • It must have supporting evidence
  • It must be unconditional
  • It must be valuable 
  • It must be acceptable
Faux compliments are prone to have the opposite effect as legitimate ones.

When we encounter that leaders are not doing such action, we encourage leaders to commence this practice more and better.

Research shows receiving a compliment can strengthen performance, social interaction, positivity in relationships and raise general happiness.

“Compliments can lift moods, improve engagement with tasks, enhance learning and increase persistence,” Professor Nick Haslam, School of Psychological Sciences, University of Melbourne

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